When your sex life feels like it’s vanishing, you’re going to need to pull some tricks out of the bag. Otherwise, well, we all know what happens otherwise. So the question is what’s going to do it for you two? You should both ask, “what does it for me?” then merge your answers. A lot of people love fantasy. And there are tons of sizzling hot fantasies you can role play. Sit down and have a discussion. Put your hottest fantasies on a list and compare.

This is one of my favourites because I’m a swimmer. It is possible, however, it would be difficult to execute in a public pool. If you don’t want to take it that far, you can use your bathtub. “OMG. He’s drowning.” You have pull him out of the tub. You have to give him mouth to mouth. He’s not responding. You’re looking for something out of the box to wake him up. You slowly slide your hand down inside of his bathing suit and start to feel him coming back to life.

This one is great. I’d advise using costume. Dress up like a police officer. He’s alone in the house. You’re there to execute a warrant for soliciting a prostitute. He won’t let you in, so you have to use force; use force on the door and on him. You immediately consider him a threat. You have no choice but to submit him. You cuff him and render him helpless (yes, it’s worth getting real cuffs for this). Now he’s all yours; you have complete control.

Reminisce back to your days in school. Talk about teachers you both found hot. Tell each other how bad you wanted them to just take you. Then make the conversation reality. You can do this at home or take the risk of going to a University during off hours. I prefer the later. Sit him down at the desk. Tell him his grades are poor and there’s “not much” he can do about it. “You can kiss that scholarship to Yale goodbye, kiddo. Unless you’d do one thing.”